Looking at you, looking at me

It's amazing how most people never notice their own reflections in other peoples eyes when they speak to one another. They don't know how to listen to each other, reach the solutions on the first try and keep right on going.

Real listening happens in the heart, and that's just how you get to the heart of any matter. Can you look me in the eye and share your mission?

Mostly, people are so focused on their own visions and purposes that they never heard yours. Maybe, as you explained, they imagined how yours fit with theirs. Maybe they imagined how yours fit beside theirs, but probably they didn't absorb a word you said and went right on having their self-centered thoughts. 

Selfish motivations are perfect if you are only trying to please yourself. After that, you have to consider that everyone has to get something out of it if they are expected to participate. 

Some people, rare people, will generously give anything for the simple pleasure of giving. Most, want something in return -- whether it's joy, entertainment, social interaction, a profit, sometimes love or friendship. It's easy to tell who works for the money and who works for reasons you can't package.

Why is it that some people find it more fulfilling to whine about what other people have than to figure out how to get it on their own? 

It's a great big sandbox world out there, people. There's room enough for everyone to actually build their own dream castles, enough resources for everyone to find something with which to create them. People really are just waiting at the gates to see what gets all mixed in.

There are enough people not doing anything these days that if you really want to do the leg work, you can find them and bring them to your aid. Better yet, find someone whose passion is to recruit them for you. There is enough money and attention wasted on things empty, unsatisfying, and meaningless that it doesn't take much to gain an audience for worthy things. Plenty of people have nothing better to do.

That said, just make it experiential and worthy of notice. Easy. Here's where you go back to the heart. Stir them.

After that, just make sure that plenty of people see it and that their experience with it is pleasant. Easy. It's the age of the Internet, after all. 

Forget all the bickering, the whining, the coveting of others' resources, the criticism of their vision. They and no one else will hear you talking about your projects after zoning out while you whined so well. Negative campaigning does no good unless you can use real proof, and your opinion does not count as proof.

Don't expect anyone else to care about your project as much as you.

Don't be an elitist. Be inclusive. Act like your neighbors are your neighbors. Even if they are from another planet, they will only hang around so long as they want.